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Stress Relief for a Good Night’s Sleep

Written by Vivian on October 13, 2009 – 1:02 pm -

In today’s world, there are a million things that could keep you from sleeping soundly. Perhaps you’ve been hearing about the latest pesticide that causes cancer. Maybe you have heard that the lettuce from Argentina or some other country is contaminated. Or, you could be thinking about someone in your family and what can be done to change or set things right again.

All of these thoughts can go whirling around your head, time and again, night after night, with new reports replacing the old ones. Bedtime musing may be helpful once in a while, but when it persists and you don’t get a good amount of that deep sleep, life generally becomes more difficult. You may wonder how you can go back to sleeping well.

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Cleaning Your Own House

Written by Lynne on September 2, 2009 – 9:29 am -

We all have beliefs and patterns of thinking that we have adopted throughout our lives. Many of these habits of thought have to do with our loved ones and other people in our lives.

People from large families may not believe they got all the parenting they expected because their parents’ attention would only go so far. All children have an idea of what a good parent is and what they want from their parents. If their expectation doesn’t match their reality, they feel a sense of loss which may be expressed through anger or a sense of unworthiness.

We can recognize the need behind our early thoughts and then add the understanding we gain as adults that we don’t have to let old thoughts and beliefs control our lives. When we do this we choose a new path toward healthier, happier relationships.

Another example is the expectations we have about our significant relationships. We have a list of how we want to be treated which is not always met by our loved one. In this conflict people often give up instead of working toward a mutually fulfilling relationship, free from old beliefs.

As adults we need to clean house and remove all the assumptions we created as children. Learn more about how to clean your own mental house by reading Chapter 5, “Break Free From Thought Patterns”, in our book, Activate Your Brilliance: 12 Keys to the Art of Living Happy.

Tags: habits of thought, happier relationships.
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Are You Caught in Trauma or Drama?

Written by Lynne & Vivian on August 28, 2009 – 9:08 am -

Yesterday Lynne was talking with a very good friend of ours who commented that she still finds herself paying too much attention to what other people say or think about her. This is something that we frequently continue to deal with in our lives.

First of all when anyone gets caught up in what they think someone else thinks about them, there is a gut clenching or very uncomfortable feeling that may range from sadness or despair to anger. Some people go to the anger first. When this happens to us it is our first indication that something is out of kilter.

We have come to understand that our feelings are messengers. Negative feelings tell us that our thoughts about whatever is going on are negative. In other words, we are making up something negative about another person, believing it, and perhaps acting on it. Whenever we experience trauma and drama in our families or jobs, it is because we have made our thoughts into facts.

We have learned to fact check from our natural Brilliance. Then we don’t have to personalize what other people are saying or thinking about us. This is a huge stress eliminator. This makes stress relief easy for us.

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Change Your Mind for Stress Relief

Written by Lynne & Vivian on August 25, 2009 – 1:52 am -

Change Your Mind for Stress Relief

The experts say that we are designed to experience stress and react to it. Stress can be positive and intensify our awareness. If you have ever played soccer or softball or tennis or any competitive sport, you know this kind of stress is actually exhilarating and can bring out our best efforts.

However, the stress we feel from job pressures and demands is not exhilarating. The stress you experience when getting bad news about someone you love might feel like a ball of fire in your gut and a tightness that takes time to release. The stress many of us have felt in long-term bad relationships can even lead to emotional disorders because our chronic stress reactions haven’t been released or resolved.

In other words, the stress that continues unabated, that we can’t get relief from, becomes distress to our bodies. That’s the kind of stress we have to get a handle on. If we don’t, we face the consequences of anger, depression, high blood pressure, and many more health problems.

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Get OFF The Stress Train

Written by Lynne & Vivian on August 19, 2009 – 3:05 am -

We welcome you to the first posting of our new Brilliance Blog. For many years we have been learning to make the Brilliance connection. We have experienced amazing success in dealing with stress and in creating the lives we choose. Our work has been received by thousands of satisfied clients and readers who are experiencing the life changes they have been looking for. We hope that you will enjoy our regular posts on Brilliance, Stress and Mindset. Take a look at our Homepage to further explore the journey into Brilliance.

Get OFF The Stress Train

It’s time to get out the word. In this crazy, upside-down world where everything is changing at the speed of sound, are you ready to get off the stress train and free yourself to travel to a new destination called stress relief?

If you feel like you are running in circles most of the time, like a dog chasing its tail, your body is stressed.
If you feel tired, maybe exhausted, and possibly irritable a lot of the time, your emotions are stressed.
If you have problems sleeping and you can’t relax because your thoughts are running a mile a minute, your mind is stressed.

It doesn’t really matter which part of us feels stressed; there is a new way to deal with it. With a few easy concepts you can begin to understand how your thoughts can either increase the stress you feel or lead to stress relief.