Stress Relief for Anger in Relationships
Written by Lynne & Vivian on November 17, 2009 – 8:00 am -Anger is a feeling all of us have experienced. We usually blame others for “making us angry” when, in fact, the real culprit for anger is the thoughts we have inside our own heads. Yes, the behaviors that others have, the accidents that occur, the “stupid” decisions, and on and on, do have the ability get a reaction from us. But, the reaction will come forth from us? Also, we determine its frequency and intensity.
Ask yourself this question: Can I let go of anger in my relationships? Because anger is such a common stressor in relationship problems, we need to give it some attention. To truly master our relationships, we need to master our feelings of anger. Anger is easily triggered because of our family conditioning and because it appears to be the “best” expression that shows how we are feeling at the time.
Our feeling vocabulary may be limited. We may be afraid, and cover it with anger. We may be frustrated to the max and let anger take over our words. We might simply feel defeated by a voicemail system when we have tried to get an important message through to a service representative. No matter when or where our anger takes the stage, we damage relationships with unrestrained anger.
Our frustration, irritation, and distress frequently build into anger because we don’t let these feelings out until we feel safe. Too often we let anger run riot with the people closest to us, or with those with whom we can “get away with it”. Because our anger response often is harsh, explosive, and quickly gets out of control, it is imperative that we recognize its source.
Tags: anger, Brilliance, Relationships, Stress Relief, thoughts
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The Real Solution to Stress and Lack of Sleep
Written by Lynne & Vivian on October 20, 2009 – 8:00 am -Sleeping well? Or, is the stress in your life waking you up, continuing to plague those wee hours of the morning? Imagine life 100 years ago. Yes, there were difficult times and life was not as easy as it is today with the conveniences of indoor plumbing and super-kitchens. But, life was not as hectic or rushed for most people. Quite simply, there just weren’t as many things to think about.
Today we can watch the late news and the 24-hour news channels, or a late-night tear ‘em up movie. Some of us get connected to family and friends with late-night phone calls and can’t get to sleep because our minds are processing the conversations again. It’s hard to assess the real risk these news or life events we focus on 24/7 pose in our lives. But the side effects from lack of sleep are well-documented.
So, what is the real solution?
Tags: lack of sleep, stress is a feeling, Stress Relief, Thinking
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Stress Relief for a Good Night’s Sleep
Written by Vivian on October 13, 2009 – 1:02 pm -In today’s world, there are a million things that could keep you from sleeping soundly. Perhaps you’ve been hearing about the latest pesticide that causes cancer. Maybe you have heard that the lettuce from Argentina or some other country is contaminated. Or, you could be thinking about someone in your family and what can be done to change or set things right again.
All of these thoughts can go whirling around your head, time and again, night after night, with new reports replacing the old ones. Bedtime musing may be helpful once in a while, but when it persists and you don’t get a good amount of that deep sleep, life generally becomes more difficult. You may wonder how you can go back to sleeping well.
Tags: sleep, Stress Relief, thoughts, worry
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Brilliance Relieves Stress
Written by Lynne & Vivian on September 1, 2009 – 2:09 am -Brilliance Relieves Stress
We all love going to the bank or using our debit cards when our accounts are full and overflowing. Lucky for us, we all have an overflowing bank of wisdom, which we call natural Brilliance. It has nothing to do with our IQ or our academic history. Natural Brilliance is the essence of the life force that flows through us every second of the day. Some call it wisdom, Higher Power or the force field of the Universe. Others experience it as intuition, a gut feeling, a hunch, or common sense. It is ours and it is always overflowing and abundant.
Brilliance is a natural part of the human condition. We are all born with it; it cannot be broken, or lost or destroyed. It is always there, available to us. It’s like a buoy in a lake. It can be pushed down, but always pops back up. We can ignore it, or forget about it, but it’s always inside of us, containing the answers we need in every moment.
Tags: Brilliance, Brilliant Mind, Natural Brilliance, natural core of Brilliance, Stress Relief, wisdom
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Are You Caught in Trauma or Drama?
Written by Lynne & Vivian on August 28, 2009 – 9:08 am -Yesterday Lynne was talking with a very good friend of ours who commented that she still finds herself paying too much attention to what other people say or think about her. This is something that we frequently continue to deal with in our lives.
First of all when anyone gets caught up in what they think someone else thinks about them, there is a gut clenching or very uncomfortable feeling that may range from sadness or despair to anger. Some people go to the anger first. When this happens to us it is our first indication that something is out of kilter.
We have come to understand that our feelings are messengers. Negative feelings tell us that our thoughts about whatever is going on are negative. In other words, we are making up something negative about another person, believing it, and perhaps acting on it. Whenever we experience trauma and drama in our families or jobs, it is because we have made our thoughts into facts.
We have learned to fact check from our natural Brilliance. Then we don’t have to personalize what other people are saying or thinking about us. This is a huge stress eliminator. This makes stress relief easy for us.
Tags: Change your mind, Natural Brilliance, negative feelings, responses to stress, Stress Relief, Thinking, thoughts
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Change Your Mind for Stress Relief
Written by Lynne & Vivian on August 25, 2009 – 1:52 am -Change Your Mind for Stress Relief
The experts say that we are designed to experience stress and react to it. Stress can be positive and intensify our awareness. If you have ever played soccer or softball or tennis or any competitive sport, you know this kind of stress is actually exhilarating and can bring out our best efforts.
However, the stress we feel from job pressures and demands is not exhilarating. The stress you experience when getting bad news about someone you love might feel like a ball of fire in your gut and a tightness that takes time to release. The stress many of us have felt in long-term bad relationships can even lead to emotional disorders because our chronic stress reactions haven’t been released or resolved.
In other words, the stress that continues unabated, that we can’t get relief from, becomes distress to our bodies. That’s the kind of stress we have to get a handle on. If we don’t, we face the consequences of anger, depression, high blood pressure, and many more health problems.
Tags: Change your mind, emotional disorders, feeling stressed, health problems, Relationships, Stress Relief, Thinking, thought, unhappiness
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Get OFF The Stress Train
Written by Lynne & Vivian on August 19, 2009 – 3:05 am -We welcome you to the first posting of our new Brilliance Blog. For many years we have been learning to make the Brilliance connection. We have experienced amazing success in dealing with stress and in creating the lives we choose. Our work has been received by thousands of satisfied clients and readers who are experiencing the life changes they have been looking for. We hope that you will enjoy our regular posts on Brilliance, Stress and Mindset. Take a look at our Homepage to further explore the journey into Brilliance.
Get OFF The Stress Train
It’s time to get out the word. In this crazy, upside-down world where everything is changing at the speed of sound, are you ready to get off the stress train and free yourself to travel to a new destination called stress relief?
- If you feel like you are running in circles most of the time, like a dog chasing its tail, your body is stressed.
- If you feel tired, maybe exhausted, and possibly irritable a lot of the time, your emotions are stressed.
- If you have problems sleeping and you can’t relax because your thoughts are running a mile a minute, your mind is stressed.
It doesn’t really matter which part of us feels stressed; there is a new way to deal with it. With a few easy concepts you can begin to understand how your thoughts can either increase the stress you feel or lead to stress relief.
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