New World Relationships

Written by Lynne on September 1, 2011 – 3:10 pm -

This is the ninth of 12 new articles updating the Brilliance formula. We can create relationships that reflect Brilliance. This significantly expands the collective whole and leads to new dimensions of experience.

New World Relationships

Lynne Hoft & Vivian Hildebrandt

The key to healthy, happy relationships is Brilliance. All of the aspects of the Brilliance Formula contribute to one’s ability to create healthy relationships. The first step is to create a healthy relationship with self.

We live in a world of relationships. Whether we have a close family or no family, a few friends or many, relationships are essential to our awareness of ourselves and our development as human beings.  We come to know ourselves early in life through our interactions with those around us. We receive direct information about our capabilities and character. At the same time we interpret freely and add these perceptions to our self-concept package. It is our “me-concept” that we take into the world that is the magnet for the relationships that follow.

Through the highs and lows of life we are searching for our identity.

• We can choose to know ourselves through the judgments and perceptions of others that we have stored in our memory banks.

• Or, we can search for ourselves in another realm, using our inner access to our expanded self.

We have always had an expanded Quantum self with access to Brilliance and universal experience, characterized by freedom and joy.

As we move beyond our “thought” patterns, beliefs, and patterns of thinking, we gain a stronger connection to the innate Brilliance that is the core truth of who we are. Then we can become aware of how beliefs and thinking are the stuff that all human beings are dealing with. What we discover in self, we see in others. What we see in others often parallels our own habits and patterns of being.

We learn to recognize our “feelings” and the messages they give us about our thinking. We know when we are caught up in old habits and ways of being and when we are aligned with our Brilliance. Eventually we recognize in others the same pattern. We see when those others in our lives are acting out of their old habits—reacting to the feelings their beliefs engender. Often it is easier to see this play out in others than in ourselves.

As our understanding of “moods” grows we gain some mastery at knowing when to progress and when to hold back. We become able to connect our moods to our actions. We learn to avoid decision-making and conflict when in low moods. This alone eliminates many potential situations from erupting into conflicts. We also begin to recognize low moods in others and to allow space for low moods. We learn to avoid confronting and pushing when the mood levels prohibit healthy, sane interactions.

The core principles of the Brilliance Formula allow our relationships to improve. We are more able to accept that we are caught in an old habit vs. making ourselves wrong—condemned to being an eternal mess. And we are able to see others through the same lens. We are all learning to grow in our Brilliance.

Once we add understanding “separate realities” into the mix, our relationships are given a new field—a new foundation for development.

• We realize that our realities are unique and individual.
• We quit expecting others to think as we think and to see life as we see it.
• It is this key that opens the door to new ways of being in relationships.
• We gain the license to discover more deeply who the others are in our lives—by asking, listening, and hearing them share themselves with us.
• And we also share ourselves with them.

Now we are available for a deeper intimacy and a deeper love connection within our relationships.

Adding “forgiveness” moves us into a new level of being with others and with ourselves. We are able to go beyond our limits and forge pathways to freedom. We free ourselves and others from old molds, old ways of being. Doors open to new worlds, new realities where we are free to be our best.

When we bring our true self to “relationships”, the outcome is phenomenal. We give ourselves freely and can accept the sacred gifts that each other person brings. New worlds of relationships start when we find our wholeness and begin to recognize the wholeness of others. We create from this foundation and work to bring wholeness and healing into every action and interaction. When all work together from their Brilliance, their truth, anything is possible.

We human beings are a collective. We don’t learn alone, grow alone, or become all we can be, alone. Me, me, me is the consciousness that is reflected in the world we see today. It is finding our identity not as “me” but as “we”, a collective whole, that is the way we move forward. We are ONE. When we truly recognize our Oneness, the doors to heaven open and we go beyond our wildest dreams.

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